IV. Stages

 

Yes, No, Maybe So, or in the Barrel
 
When I was a kid we had fun with some sayings
We clapped hands in rhythm and said without failing
"Yes, No, Maybe so, or in the Barrel"
We had to choose one at our peril
 
I chose the barrel
I chose too narrow
I could barely move
So I don't approve
 
So I tried out Yes
But I must confess
My "Yes" fell flat
And that was that
 
No then seemed the safest choice
And I began to give it voice
But all I got was frowns from all
So now I'm lost within a hall
 
I'll go with Maybe So I guess:
I really think it is the best!
                                               —Katherine H. Burkman

 

*

 

University Days

 

I read a book review in the New York Times recently.

It was a review by Sandra Simonds of a book by Jorie Graham

and in the last paragraph it said,

“In our historical moment, the question is not only what poetry can do, but whether it can make experience legible at all.”

I read that sentence

and I read it again

and I read it a third time

but I still didn’t get it.

 

And it brought me back to my university days,

when I would sit silently in the seminar room,

observing the lively discussion among my classmates

but never joining in,

afraid to open my mouth

and confess that I didn’t understand something

lest they all laugh at me

and conclude that I was a dummy

who should never have been admitted into that fine university in the first place.

 

But that was a long time ago.

Things are different now.

I am a grown-up,

mature and independent,

brimming with self-confidence.

Shy no more.

I read the sentence out loud:

“In our historical moment, the question is not only what poetry can do, but whether it can make experience legible at all.”

And I asked my question:

“What in the world is that supposed to mean?”

And the cat, who had been curled up on the chair next to mine, yawned and stretched.

She shot me a withering glare of disdain and,

tail held high,

she marched out of the room.

 

Like my classmates of yore,

Fluffy does not abide dummies.

                                                           —Pesach Rotem

 

*

 

On the Fourteenth of July

 

                for Jimmy

 

Please have a happy birthday, dear.

Just minimize all awkwardness.

You have survived another year.

 

Be thankful that you are still here.

There is no reason for distress.

Please have a happy birthday, dear.

 

Assume each greeting is sincere.

You heard from Jason, Jack, and Jess?

You have survived another year.

 

Would you prefer to disappear?

Not in a minute is my guess.

Please have a happy birthday, dear.

 

Attempt to feel a bit of cheer.

Rethink the meaning of success.

You have survived another year.

 

Would you like cake? Some wine or beer?

Tomorrow you can convalesce.

Please have a happy birthday, dear.

You have survived another year.

                                                           —Jane Blanchard

 

*

 

Becoming Us

 

I didn’t think that anyone could know

you better than yourself, but someone knew

me, one time, better than I knew myself.

I don’t remember who, but do recall

the revelation, back in second grade.

I’d learned what obstetrician meant and had

decided that’s what I was going to be

when I grew up for O to bring a life

into this world—and every day! It could

not have been my mom; she would have been thrilled

for me to be a doctor. It could not

have been my dad; half-German, he would never

talk about feelings although, half-Irish,

he had his share of them. Perhaps an aunt

or older cousin; all my cousins were

much older and available to talk

on serious subjects. So when someone asked,

 

How would you cope were you to lose a patient?

 

when I was seven, I knew instantly

they had a point. And, notwithstanding how

much I loved science, and was good at it,

I realized that I would not become

a doctor. And only as an adult

I learned that Research might have been an option.

By then, though, I’d already become me.

 

Years later still I learned that in Research

they used a lot of animals, which would

have closed that door to me as well. And as

for losing a life, just the loss of you,

I can’t get over. But at least you’re still

alive so there is hope, or there might be,

if I can only get you deprogrammed,

out of that lynch mob, less fond of the noose,

to hear The Doctor, learn what you’ve become,

what it will take for you to be re-born,

if such a birth is even possible.

James B. Nicola

 

*

 

Book XXIV: The Great Rooted Bed*

You move your sleeping body just enough
To cause a slight tectonic shift then sigh
Your rhythmic breathing so soporific
I give up reading, close The Odyssey
And settle into bed, the second spoon.

The clock glows; one day flows to another.
In one more week, we will have been married
For twenty years – one full generation.
Observing time like our clock, we will draw 
A line in water marking twenty more.

Now, oh, in your exhalations I hear
What Homer sang of an epic marriage.
Not wound nor bow the figure of the thing
But an image standing outside of time
A life, like ours, nothing like a journey:

The witless interventions of the gods
The shipwrecks we survived, the shoals avoided
All our miraculous transformations
We have not passed them on some road to death.
They are not subject to horology.

Our adventures still are, not were
But figures we accumulate like rings
Of time. We neither trudge, nor run but grow
Arboreally in all dimensions, at once
Remaining firmly planted in our place.

Here, always, in our own Ithaca
Our plighted troth, this lithe and breathing thing
Coalesces into limbs, into roots
Exerting its ever-strengthening grip
On this madly tumbling rock of earth.

My eyes fall shut; the lashes touch the skin
And stir the air resting on your shoulder.
And now I know I can succumb to sleep
As our commingling respiration
Exfoliates into the olive’s leaves.
                                                  —Terence Pare 

 

*


[untitled]
 

on our Wednesday half days

I drive

you take a book of my poems from your pocket

I will read it aloud you say

 

your voice caresses the lines

a slight hesitation as you reach for meaning

your smile at the shock of discovery

as images reveal their layers

 

you follow my footsteps as if in snow

observe tracks

alert to nuance and direction

 

and I follow you as you follow me

the fullness of your silence between stanzas

I hear my words in  new patterns

fresh from your mouth

at the final line you bow your head

 

I am twice blessed

                                      —Judy Belsky

 

*

 

The Narrow Band

 

I wear this narrow band daily,

I’ve had four of them, falling loose,

misplacing, replacing. And my husband

stays by me wondering where I put them,

never angry, just knowing I don’t pay

for the rings nor do I pay attention

to where I lay things down over decades.

The ring, now slender gold with petite diamonds

across the front, I paid for thinking

it was time to pay for my losses. The details

of his caring, providing, fathering, fixing

broken objects hoses, sinks, light fixtures,

“Daddy-fix it!” our young children cried out,

bringing him a broken truck, a doll’s twisted arm….

Yes, the children are now past middle age, graying,

balding (our son), dyeing hair (our daughter),

has we walk through the autumn of our lives

through illness and health, as if we were taking

our vows once again. I hold this ring, dearest

to my heart. So many stages, passing from youthful

twenties to early thirties having no idea of death

before us, waiting patiently for our arrival.

It is no time for regrets. What’s past is done.

The preciousness of each day overrides all

that’s gone. 

                      —Paula Goldman

 

*

 

CHRYSALIS

 

I have other things to do,

other places to go. Like

the monarch butterfly

that takes five generations

to make each major migration,

my soul seems to need a chrysalis

before it breaks into each

new stage of its journey,

a period of quiet, growth

and peace, a solo existence.

 

The epiphytes here hang

from that branch drawing

their water from the air.

Threatened, like me, they yet

still hang on, cling to life,

drinking each drop of moisture

sucked from humidity,

and mineral and other

nourishment with it.

 

Kind HaShem, grant me

the strength to carry on through

each of the forty-nine stages

of my journey. Help me

to peel open a new life

and fulfill its utmost

within each phase

that yet remains.

                                —Alyssa A. Lappen

 

*
 
Hushed Moments:
 
Sit by my side....Silence -
Enwrap my shadow with your greyness
And storm my memories with scents of roses,
Yellow and orange, perfumed ones –
Not quite blooming, but almost...
Reminding my essence of the brilliance of dawn
Before the inevitable arrival of evening tide ...
 
Have Memories value?
The pains, the sorrows and sufferings?
My being here  - did it make a difference somewhere,
other than my valued space?
Leaving what?
For Whom?
Why?
 
Seasons have vanished in a glimmer
Seemingly oblivious,  leaving signs....
Butterflies - from larva to exquisite creations -
Fluttering here and there, never settling down
Free, in fiery horizons at sunset....
 
I
 
Instead, be I rather a tree, rooted and strong?
Eternally bearing fruit ..
My legacy.... Voices, Voices, Voices! 
Incessantly bringing forth ‘Soul Speak’...
 
 Ancient melodies, crystal bells, silvery tunes
Unceasing, murmuring tales of past existences.
Is it time to go yet?
Or is there yet a new song that needs birthing?.... 
                                                                                       —Miriam Jaskierowicz Arman
 
 

Re-born

 

My father hoped I’d be a boy

but accepted me with unbounded joy,

new born I lay, all squeals and kicks,

a little sister for Ruth, aged six.

I married the man who stole my heart,

re-born as wife, a whole new start

in another country across the sea,

in time becoming mother of three.              

For nearly forty years as wife

through all the ups and downs of life,

‘til husband’s illness - slowly worse,

I was re-born as thankless nurse.

 

I watched him fade for thirteen years

towards oblivion, hid my tears,

forgetting all he’d ever known;

re-born as widow, free, alone.

 

I met a gentle, loving man,

re-born, a full new life began,

deprived of “golden years” before

I had them now, and so much more.

 

My children married, their children too,

as years slipped by my family grew,

re-born as matriarch of them all

I’m keeping track of big and small.

 

I moved to a flat, compact, brand new

above grand-daughter, splendid view,

re-born as pensioner, duties shed,

now they all care for me instead.

 

At ninety-one, a ripe old age,

I’ve been re-born at every stage,

through joy and sadness, loss and gain,

I doubt more stages still remain.

                                                            —Rumi Morkin

 

*


Butterflies Dance Me

Shabbat dance in garden
I wore butterflies 
covering my head. 
Or did butterflies wear me?
I was my own chrysalis.
 
Hidur Mitzvah for the garden,  
my skull of joyous newly sprouted silver fuzzies. 
 
My first grand social outing 
in 11 months since diagnosis. 
 
Rabbi and friends brought me chicken soup.  
 
Butterflies danced on my head. 
My first dance in a year. 
My life celebration.
 
Shechinah danced me. 
We met and danced in a field of flowers —  
Davenen women, the flowers. 
 
My biggest smile in a year. 
Almost my only smile in a year.  
I sparkled, flowers told me. 
 
I did not turn down loving hugs 
when the women asked permission
and knew closeness was vulnerable 
with low/ no working immune system.
Hugs birth Life. 
 
I face more treatments.   
I need more butterflies.  
Butterflies that represent transformation.   
I have served as Monarch butterfly doula,  
and Shomer. 
Prayers also are very welcome.
Gila Rena Tzohara bat Leiba bat Etel bat Perl.
                                                                                   —Joy Krauthammer
 

*

 

[untitled]

 

I turn my gaze toward you

I/eye see a broken vessel

 

shattering my broken heart

Bend down to gather those scattered pieces

remnants of a wholeness

bringing light and joy to those who behold

I clutch them close

each reflecting a memory, a story

a subtle smile

a naughty nod

a reflective radiance

a melancholy murmur

a mischievous moment

all loving labor

I stop my steps

lost in the mind of eternity

and ask, can these pieces be reassembled

into perfection?

or will signs and scars 

leave their mark on man?

the hurt heart will heal [perhaps]

and life

will reclaim its rhythm

plunging into uncharted places

                                                          —Golda Rivka Warhaftig

 

* 

 

On The Way To The Ballet

 

The old ladies march

Onto the elevator,

Steadied by their canes,

Each a shrunken frailty

Wrapping an unending

Soul—they are going

To watch young people

Dance dances of grace

And beauty, while re-

Calling their own beauty

Long dissolved in the

Acid of time. Yet, they

Are happy—I even joke

With them as I lean on

My own cane: “Come

Ladies! Let’s have a

Foot race!”  They all

Laugh, as the young

Girls within their

Tattered frames

Flirt with the potent

Young man hiding

Behind my time-

Marked mask.

For a moment

We all feel a jolt

Of that spark

We call life.

                      —Nolo Segundo

 

 * 

 

“THE DAYS THAT ARE NO MORE”

 

When I consider that the greatest share

By far, of my sublunar days is  flown,

And that how long I shall remain aware

Of all that I have witnessed, is unknown,

Then friends and places pass before my eyes

As if glimpsed briefly from a railway car,

And though placed out of reach, the heart's surmise

Would have me think of them as things that are;

Or like some house where now I cannot go

But still it stands, while memory holds a key:

Its heaped-up goods, its windows still aglow,

Will vanish when the light goes out of me.

O could that world somehow obtain reprieve,

For breath itself perhaps, I would not grieve.

                                                                                 —Esther Cameron

 

 * 

 

End of Fall

 

Leaves flowing swiftly to the ground,

as I fall into the winter of my life,

how did this all come about?

No more pennies. Where is my copper

hair. Dying it monthly to stay myself,

yes, potions and lotions can’t remove

the journey of my life bringing me

to the end of fall. Warm and beautiful

fall’s Wisconsin, deep reds, bold yellows,

life giving greens, all dying out. And now

color comes in tubes, lipstick, rouge, eyebrow

fillers added to a pharmacy of lotions

and potions which cannot erase

my life’s journey. And why would I want to?

Because I want it back like lost keys, lost scarves,

lost shoes. I cannot dwell in loss. And now

“till death do us part” is hunkering

in the house with an ill husband.

What do I see next?

The news isn’t good.

                                      —Paula Goldman

 

 *

 

LITTLENESS AND GREATNESS

 

I move my lips in the rhythm of your lips without your seeing

I engrave your explanations on my skin

Without your seeing

You who begot me you old gray sinking

And you know the whole Torah

In the beginning of conception was union

And then the drop issued in the aspect of ten kingdoms

And afterwards in gestation these

Ten spheres were perfected—

The external ones—

I quiet my demons with clown-like movements

Without your seeing

You were pleasant to me how pleasant you were to my bleating body

And you explain to me about the thickness of the root

About the issuance of a new countenance the male and the female in the body of the points

And about and about

You explain to me the general rule

And skip over the particular

Like the beloved skipping over the mountains unhurried fearless

And you say birth means the issuance of the second person to a countenance with a name singled to itself

And thus the wheel turns and returns turns and returns

And after the suckling

The second aspect, of love-judgment-compassion enters with nine joints

I want to grow old with you

To stride before you all flashing rejoicing

Your wisdom is braided into me fastened inside me hidden

And afterward in greatness

Enter Wisdom-Understanding-Knowledge in 9 spheres

And are gradually enclothed

O mind O greatness

Soul higher soul supernal soul — revelation!

Raising from the supernal illumination of the lower descent of Kingdom

Enclothing in the Ancient of perfect lights

 

I concentrate on the breath of your mouth the Urim and Thummim

Outside a dark dawn is rising elongated reddened cypresses

From the house a baby’s crying

As she seeks consolation at her mother’s nipple

                                                                                      — Chana Kremer

 

*

 

FIVE POEMS by JUDY BELSKY

 

in the end the calligraphy of strain, of illness

slides off your face like disappearing ink

Is there a message tucked in the folds of shrouds?

at the last possible moment

your skin is lit from within

with anticipation for

a new story

 

early on someone named you

named, you are released from the tight husks that bind your DNA

but then you edit down your parts

hiding

overcome with confusion

lost in translation

lacking a bridge of words

now a second naming takes place

the whole of you marches out of your tired body

bold

you spring forward out of the shadows

as if there never was a secret

 

the banal  the petty  the spiteful  the rages

interred easily like light pebbles among the inert stones

your powerful deeds form a golden arc

you ride it to Heaven

 

like stars against a clear night

you appear

your intentions organize constellations

everything makes sense now

finally you relax

 

your tiers crown you like the twelve stones around Jacob’s head

 

you leave

in the instant we get to know you

one glimpse and you are gone

 

you get to sleep safe from wars plague and tiresome journeys

we are almost envious

 

*

 

today I find a small package of replacement buttons

even buttons tell a story

how your hand eased open the heavily starched hole

and no they never got it right

and no you never complained

 you made them feel like royalty

and the tradesmen lined up weeping as you passed

the way the king’s subjects line the road to catch a last glimpse.

 

the pearly buttons seem to have grown

and must be pushed into place

 a tale of struggle—arthritis and learned patience

 

year before

when we move to Memphis you are still pulsating on New York time

in the parking lot of eastgate shopping mall

you ignore the vast, empty spaces

double park

leave your engine running

you shake up the staid atmosphere in the dime store

as you urgently request white thread and needles

you seethe as the molasses girl carefully wraps the package

hands you change,

thanks you

and begs y’all come again.

 

that evening, I watch you sew a button on your shirt

you look bemused

do you after all see the charm in the scenario?

when you replay it

are you struck by grace in each act?

 

your heart is a magnet for kindness

you collect it as some do rare coins

your collection grows

 

when I see you sewing on that button

with wide masculine movements

I recall the midrash on Avraham

who repaired the rip in the world

and his character is kindness

he roots out their distortions and detours and false starts

and sews a true seam

and with circular motion pulls people into his sacred arc

 

you do not trip on the rough terrain of your own heart

the wild plains of pain, shame and rejection

you use these as signposts

to read the text in stymied hearts

you row hard against the current

pulling love and regard into your wake

against the current

you soothe and prepare hearts for the truth

 

*

 

I scratch at the layers

 

search through sheaves

dig for my last stanza

in the hopes it will prompt a new one

 

but the backlog of two years

stacks against me

leaves of frail volumes stick together

blue black veins stain parchment

text escapes transparent vellum

 

the pandemic misfires the code of his kidneys

quarantine arrests my pancreas

we dance in jagged rhythm

 

the ragged edges of pages

one for each friend who died

demand a line:

when will his when will mine

be ripped from the tablet

will someone gather them

 

bury them like geniza

fragments of sacred text

impossible to read

too holy to burn

 

 *

in the film the woman is tone deaf

but longs to sing opera

she murders the score

she reduces the exquisite landscape to rubble

I cannot bear the sound attack

nor her pitiful denial

I never watch the end

 

at a funeral

as her husband is buried

a woman screams his name over and over

we cannot hear our thoughts

we hear nothing but his name

his name captures us in blindfolds

and pushes us toward a foreign country

 I refused to be taken hostage

   

 I have not written since my husband died

have I chosen silence?

grief cancels words

a push on the chest produces

harsh emission from injured vocal chords

it breaks any expectation

 

if grief is a language

it is buried below the level of speech

a groan is language

known only to God

no midrash breaks up the dark mass of despair

no crescendo rises

to that hint of redemption

that takes away our breath

then forces us to breathe again

 

 *

 

the door

 

is deeply paneled

I want to fold into its geometry

rest in its grooves

like a bird concealed in a tree

 

the force of history

threatens to blow the door off its hinges

but it holds tight

I inch the door from its frame

 

air blasts out

the current repels me and beckons me

like wind that rushes off the sea

drenches me with salt and alters my features

 

I suck breath into parts of my lungs

that have lain in shallows like hungry orphans

 

the grind of my grief

the pull of low tones of bone chant pursue me

I push past them

 

lies drop around me

like samplers embroidered with worn out phrases

You are a widow

Defined by your loss

Your hour has passed

You are at an equinox    

You count away from time

You walk into your shadow

 

lies shed like old skin

 

dust motes dance in beams of sunlight

I know this place

I know its contours

as well as I know the four- chambered mansion of my heart

 

the room is empty

unscripted

unpainted

it waits for me furious poet without words

ferocious painter without canvas

it bids me enter

 

my heart beats

I will

I will

 

***

 

DUST AND WATER

 

I poured dust and set the stone and since then

A riddle reposes in all the silent fields

When I help you to press the head out

The rescue rope tightens

In the form of a question mark

You tear your mouth open in a roar of mourning

You listen to the gushing of water

And the silence that comes afterward

My body is stretched out covered with seaweed

Ear pressed to the earth

Babies are like the dead they do not

Seek solutions

Your baby girl has beautiful eyes

She cuts corners for me

                                           —Chana Kremer

 

*

 

A Prisoner of War

 

Our parents die but they often don’t leave us

alone.  My father died, yet he’s with me—

as absent as when he was here.  And I’m

adrift trying to reach him.  Trying hard

 

to figure him out — the distance he kept—

a far shore I haven’t reached.  I’ve always missed him

and still hope to see a faint smile of pride

in me (if just a trace).  I ask him: why?

 

I’ve wondered if he buried a hurt too deep

to reveal, a void of loss he couldn’t escape:

a prisoner of war held back by a great wound—

losses that haunted him and wouldn’t let him heal. 

 

He left me here alone, still waiting, wondering why

we failed to bridge love’s chasm before he left for good.

                                                                                                     —Amos Neufeld

 

*

 

DRAGONFLY

 

The dragonfly overhead could be Mom's

reincarnation, or maybe just sent

to remind me that she's here, inside,

always, with her loves of nature,

art, music and children. The kingfisher

calls, and that too is Mom, shot through

the whole out-of-doors. In the shade

by the quiet lake, she filters through

every leaf, every pine needle, pine cone,

through every bug, every bird, every

ray of light shining in the water,

every fish crow's call, even that yellow

butterfly winging overhead,

and the zebra butterfly drinking nectar

from the orange blossoms beside me.

The kingfisher—is it Mom?—calls

again, in answer to my notice.

Gone almost three years, she is,

but still here, within the anhinga,

within the bee, and deep deep within me.

                                                                            --Alyssa A. Lappen

                                                                               May 7, 2026